Maintaining a Healthy Inner Balance
What does it mean to be balanced? Because balance can come in many forms, such as the food we eat, work vs. home life, family vs. friends, etc. for the purpose of this writing I want to explore "inner balance". To me, inner balance is about how we are acting in response to our life. There are times that it is easy to stay balanced and in a place of allowing. Things are seemingly in order. When we are in a place of allowing, we are co-creating with the Universe for the best outcome of any given situation.
If you have planned an activity and things take place which completely change your plan do you freak out or do you go with the flow? If you are going with the flow, you are maintaining balance because for all you know the change will bring something into your life that you have been missing or something that you didn’t even know you needed. You don’t try to “push the river”, you simply accept the change, and you look for the good in the situation.
However, if you are freaking out about the change of plan then you are in a place of reaction. You are allowing a change in plans to totally upset your day. You fixate on what is lost and it ruins your day, rather than looking for the positives. When we are reacting to those unexpected things that come into our life we begin to feel anxiety and feel upset. Some might lash out at others, or will be forced to “do” or “not do” what ever they planned, complaining all the way. However, when we can stop that frayed energy from getting started, things seem to be less stressful and we are able to look rationally at a situation and rather than “reacting”, take positive action in order to regain and maintain balance. Isaac Newton said, “For every action there is an equal and opposite reaction.”
So, how do we stop reaction and move into positive action? It is important to remember that we are here on this Earth plane to learn and grow. This is a valuable lesson to learn and accept. If we are reacting to something we are giving it negative energy and thus we bring about more chaos, more stress, and more anxiety. Another law of physics, “That which is like unto itself is drawn”-The Law of Attraction. Meaning, if we begin to react, we are closing ourselves off to the positives that might come from the change in situation. If we are in a place of positive action, and positive thoughts, we are seeing things as they really are and we are granted an opportunity to learn, to grow.
For some, the state of “reaction” has been a learned response to something that you did not plan for or think you don’t want. Often we learn this “reaction” behavior as a child and we carry it over into our adult life. I realize that some “react” out of habit or even fear but it is a habit and fear that we need to break/move beyond, immediately. Don’t get me wrong, if you have been used to “reacting” rather than allowing, it is not as easy as it sounds, to stay in a place of positive action, especially when things are beginning to look like a steam roller is about to destroy all of the peace and calm that you have so diligently worked toward having in your life, but, it can and must be done. Anything that has been learned can be unlearned especially if it will make our life better.
Think of this, author, Shakti Gawain said, "If we are basically positive in attitude, expecting and envisioning pleasure, satisfaction, and happiness, we will attract and create people, situations, and events which conform to our positive expectations.” All true, don’t you think?
Maintaining balance in our lives is important for our overall mental, emotional, and physical health. So, the next time that you are faced with an unexpected change or circumstance, take a deep breath, and know that this situation or circumstance has introduced itself in order for your to learn and grow. More importantly, it is a reminder to be open and allow a positive attitude and positive action to prevail.
For me, I choose to embrace the positive outlook and if I feel as though something is challenging my own inner balance—I stop, breathe, and ask, “What is this situation teaching me?” By doing this, I am not in a state of fear or anxiety, but, in a state of seeking the positive action rather than reaction. This allows me to feel and experience a state of balance and acceptance that all is happening in its right and perfect time.
If this concept is new to you consider this; you can either learn through pain or pleasure-it is ultimately your choice. What do you choose? It will take practice if you have lived in the space of reaction but it won’t take long to embrace living through pleasure because acceptance is the key. You will begin to notice the shift in your own thoughts. You will notice the way your body feels when you are in a state of allowing. You will feel at peace and have excitement for the new experience rather than feeling tense and anxious. So, the next time that you are faced with an unexpected circumstance, decide if you will learn the lesson through pleasure or pain. Ask yourself, what it is that you are supposed to be learning in this situation. Stop, breathe, let go of your “expectations” and be open to the changes that are taking place in their right and perfect time.
Many Blessings on your amazing journey!
Saundra Berry, C.Ht.
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